Modern Parents

I was traveling by bus. It was crowded. Many people were standing. Among them, I was one. When the bus reached Samakhusi, one seat became vacant. One woman around aged 45 forced her grown son to have seat instead of taking seat herself. Her age does not co-operate her to stand letting grown and energetic son to sit. He also did not request her to sit. One of the passenger stated “it is better to sit mother but not son”, still mother did not accept and son offered seat. The parents of modern generation are quite different who love their children very much more than extent. So, they don’t tolerate any such physical wound and anxiety to their children. Consequently, children are instigated towards degraded and unethical act which has scattered chaos and skepticism in society.

There was time to have balanced relationship between children and parents. Offspring used to respect their parents more than God. If they did complain of anyone for being mocked, scolded and beaten, parents would curse their own children instead of other’s, which represents that they did not move out of track. At present, parents accept everything whatever children demand for. The children of today are very expensive. They have not been five years old and demand for electronic gadgets like iPad, iPhone, laptop to watch all the children cartoon and video. Parents have initiated to evaluate the cleverness of their children in terms of the knowledge on using all those gadgets. They enroll them at expensive school even though they do not afford for. Parents have forgotten that “we should swallow our foods as the size of nick bone”. If they recruit them at cheap school, they assume of degrading their prestige and reputation in the society. Modern parents take admission in the physically costly school either by taking loan or engaging themselves in evil work. Literally, school neither guarantees for qualitative education nor assures for the security of the children’s career itself. It depends upon children how they utilize the opportunity, they have achieved. The system of spending much expense for the study of children enrolling them in expensive school is because of the heavy competition in market for the employment. Those people who have passed Masters are even deprived from the best job opportunity such the tendency has led parents for investing much money.

There are many parents who frequently complain at school because teachers scold a bit rudely to their children. When teachers attempt to persuade them for the completion of homework regularly, they would elaborate the event negatively at home. Consequently, parents order them not to speak in loud voice. If this tendency enhances, teachers should enter in the classroom with the consent of students. Parents can rebel with teachers but can’t persuade their children because they don’t have any such suspicion for them. They adequately believe them. However, modern children can’t be trusted easily. The child executing well up to yesterday, can be rotten today. Though parents are familiarized about the degrading level of them, they neither allow anyone for the punishment, nor do they penalize them. In this condition, they are provoked towards criminal acts. For instance, I visited police station to quench for my lost mobile, where I happened to get acquainted to one case. One boy of aged nineteen stole some goods of shop, money and mobile. His parents came there and stated that “we have listened about the arrestment of my kid here”. Police became confused about who might be because they told kid and they are assured themselves for not arresting any kid. Finally, they requested them for uttering his name. They named. Polices laughed very audibly for verbalizing nineteen years old son as kid. Isn’t it fun? Moreover, they explicated about his crimes. He had snatched three shops. They told that he had been vey dangerous thief and had got three cases from different shopkeepers. Guardians even attempted to argue with polices defending their son’s innocence. They even blamed his friend’s for the bad work. They only told about good things about their son and commanded police to take out from the custody demonstrating their access to high profile people. I was astonished observing such the condition. I was imaging that they would scold their son and request police to imprison him for many days under their surveillance. However, they did not lay any mistake of him. Later, they called him in front of everyone, and he confessed truth. It was decided to keep him there for on month. His mother went inside to see the place where he must live for a month and came out shouting that how my son would spend his days in the lean of on carpet. Police told to me that she came out leaving Rs. 300 for snack to him. Does he die if he will not have snack in a month having heavy food in the morning and nights? The punishment should be given to everyone whoever s/he is. But the parents don’t accept the crime of their children these days. They always find them as their toddler. In this condition, parents are literally excavating ditch to burry themselves.

When parents do support their children blindly, they do not get rid of immortal act rather they would be encourage. They think that whatever they wish for would be adequately fulfilled by parents. In this sense, we can claim that modern parents are respecting children, but not children respect them which will co-operate for the chaos and anarchic society. What is the future of the children who are blindly crazy for the gadgets? This represents the degenerate and in humanized society prevailing for. Modern parents are literate. They should think with their literacy mind about the future of the children. They should teach them about humanization, decency, culture and respecting seniors. Then, we can explore some rays of the betterment and enlightenment.

RISING_JUNKIRI@Modern Parents_Pratima Oliya

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Modern Parents

Modern Parents

I was traveling by bus. It was crowdedly packed. Many people were standing. Among then, I was one. When the bus reached Samakhusi, one seat became vacant. One woman around aged 45 forced her grown son to have seat instead of taking seat herself. Her age does not co-operate her to stand letting grown and energetic son to sit. He also did not request her to sit. He also did not request her to sit. One of the passenger stated “it is better to sit mother but not son” still mother did not accept and son offered seat. The parents of modern generation are quite different who love their children very much more than extent. So, they don’t tolerate any such physical wound and anxiety to their children. Consequently, children are instigated towards degraded and unethical act which has scattered chaos and skepticism in society.

There was time to have balanced relationship between children and parents. Offspring used to respect their parents more than God. If they did complain of anyone for being mocked, scolded and beaten, parents would curse their own children instead of other’s, which represents that they did not move out of track. At present, parents accept everything whatever children demand for. The children of today are very expensive. They have not been five years old and demand for electronic gadgets like iPad, iPhone, laptop to watch all the children cartoon and video. Parents have initiated to evaluate the cleverness of their children in terms of the knowledge on using all those gadgets. They enroll them at expensive school even though they do not afford for. Parents have forgotten that “we should swallow our foods as the size of nick bone”. If they recruit them at cheap school, they assume of degrading their prestige and reputation in the society. Modern parents take admission in the physically costly school either by taking loan or engaging themselves in evil work. Literally, school neither guarantees for qualitative education nor assures for the security of the children’s career itself. It depends upon children how they utilize the opportunity, they have achieved. The system of spending much expense for the study of children enrolling them in expensive school is because of the heavy competition in market for the employment. Those people who have passed Masters are even deprived from the best job opportunity such the tendency has led parents for investing much money.

There are many parents who frequently complain at school because teachers scold a bit rudely to their children. When teachers attempt to persuade them for the completion of homework regularly, they would elaborate the event negatively at home. Consequently, parents order them not to speak in loud voice. If this tendency enhances, teachers should enter in the classroom with the consent of students. Parents can rebel with teachers but can’t persuade their children because they don’t have any such suspicion for them. They adequately believe them. However, modern children can’t be trusted easily. The child executing well up to yesterday, can be rotten today. Though parents are familiarized about the degrading level of them, they neither allow anyone for the punishment, nor do they penalize them. In this condition, they are provoked towards criminal acts. For instance, I visited police station to quench for my lost mobile, where I happened to get acquainted to one case. One boy of aged nineteen stole some goods of shop, money and mobile. His parents came there and stated that “we have listened about the arrestment of my kid here”. Police became confused about who might be because they told kid and they are assured themselves for not arresting any kid. Finally, they requested them for uttering his name. They named. Polices laughed very audibly for verbalizing nineteen years old son as kid. Isn’t it fun? Moreover, they explicated about his crimes. He had snatched three shops. They told that he had been vey dangerous thief and had got three cases from different shopkeepers. Guardians even attempted to argue with polices defending their son’s innocence. They even blamed his friend’s for the bad work. They only told about good things about their son and commanded police to take out from the custody demonstrating their access to high profile people. I was astonished observing such the condition. I was imaging that they would scold their son and request police to imprison him for many days under their surveillance. However, they did not lay any mistake of him. Later, they called him in front of everyone, and he confessed truth. It was decided to keep him there for on month. His mother went inside to see the place where he must live for a month and came out shouting that how my son would spend his days in the lean of on carpet. Police told to me that she came out leaving Rs. 300 for snack to him. Does he die if he will not have snack in a month having heavy food in the morning and nights? The punishment should be given to everyone whoever s/he is. But the parents don’t accept the crime of their children these days. They always find them as their toddler. In this condition, parents are literally excavating ditch to burry themselves.

When parents do support their children blindly, they do not get rid of immortal act rather they would be encourage. They think that whatever they wish for would be adequately fulfilled by parents. In this sense, we can claim that modern parents are respecting children, but not children respect them which will co-operate for the chaos and anarchic society. What is the future of the children who are blindly crazy for the gadgets? This represents the degenerate and in humanized society prevailing for. Modern parents are literate. They should think with their literacy mind about the future of the children. They should teach them about humanization, decency, culture and respecting seniors. Then, we can explore some rays of the betterment and enlightenment.

Corruption

People have worn the garland of greed
They want to sleep on the bed of money
Are inclined to the materialist devices

They are hungry animals in quest of food
Neither see Biskun on yard nor paddy in field
They luxuriate whipping the nation
Rape the nation being themselves focused
Nation is diluents smitten by germ ‘Corruption’
Greed, loss of humanity, desire of luxurious life
Quenchless thirst for prosperity and materialism
Authoritarians embrace and fragment the nation
Anxiety is what be the identity on the extension.

Poem about Corruption @My Republica (Nepalese Daily Newspaper)

Struggle of being Woman

My mother is in search for an identity. She used to be called by her father’s name before marriage and by my father’s name after getting married. Now everyone recognizes her by my brother’s name. No one even knows her name. When someone asks her name, she tells them: “Why do you need my name that does not bear any meaning?”

There are many women in the world who are living their lives pretending to be happy even without ever realizing what happiness is. They are compelled to be like the moth covered with mist. They respire each second with fear, laugh silently, and fight their biological complexities without ever complaining.

When I was born as the youngest child of my parents, they were obliged to toss me away because they were desperately looking for another son. They already had three sons, but still one more son was more important for them.

I have strong determination to do something innovative and contribute for the advancement of my country, and I am passionate about it. I am struggling hard to break the norms and values imposed upon us by the patriarchal society. My brothers are lucky to be exempt from such sorts of struggles.

When my brother comes back home late, no one tells him anything. But, when I am a little late, there is a huge issue. My home becomes an example of the stereotyping of gender roles and privileges. Women are considered to be soft, indecisive, sentimental, emotional, sensitive, week, and in need nurturing, whereas men are considered to be strong, decisive, and possessing of strength suitable for fighter.

Moreover, the mass media do not give investigative stories about women’s issues. They do not work diligently enough to dig out women’s issues except on special occasions like Women’s Day, when all the newspapers run photos of women in the front page and write opinion pieces about women who are already living successful and prosperous lives. You do not see depth reporting on the discrimination and injustices that women face every day.

One of the disheartening facts is that many victims of sexual assault are compelled to keep the incident secret because their parents think that it brings them disgrace. A father assaults his own daughter. When she shares the trauma with her mother, the mother pleads with her to conceal the fact saying that it will ruin their family prestige.

When a girl becomes 20, all the family members start worrying about her marriage. The neighbors and relatives start backbiting about the family for not marrying off their aged daughter. For instance, I am now 22 years old. I am studying and side by side working hard to contribute for my society. But my family keeps urging me to get married. I refuse and tell them that I want to be self-dependent and do something innovative for the development of my nation.

Many women are harassed sexually by their family members, colleagues, and bosses. I hear from many married women that they often have to let their husbands make physical relation with them whether they like it or not. Many husbands tell their wives that they did not marry them just to worship them if the wives are not ready for sex. The consent from both sides is required, but men do not care.

Furthermore, many women become the victims of domestic violence. We often hear of stories when the husband and his family members beat the wife severally and even attempt to burn her alive if her family does not meet the demands of the husband’s family. The bride’s family has to give huge amount of money and other goodies to the groom’s family, whether they can afford it or not.

Women should co-operate with each other, spread love, and listen to the voices of each other. Feminist movement should be grounded on developing skills of women and inspiring them to be more self-reliant. Just demonstrating with banners on Women’s Day will not help much. Women should be united like the flowers of a garland. Only then could the condition of women be improved.

 

Struggle of being Woman @My Republica (Nepalese Daily Newspaper)

Greed for Abroad

The current generation is facing tough competition for getting employment opportunities which has compelled them to fly abroad in search of material prosperity and to maintain high self-esteem in society. They assume that living overseas will get them a standard lifestyle.

And it is common for a boy here to ask for a girl working as a nurse or girl having competent knowledge in English. This in fact is the harsh reality of our society. And this is because Nepali education system gives little priority to skills-based practical approach. It is mostly limited to theoretical teaching. As a result, youths are attracted to foreign countries for better opportunities whether it be educational or employment. Furthermore, the wage people earn in Nepal is very low which cannot adequately fulfill the requirements that people aspire.

In today’s scenario people are emphasizing material-centric living. As a result, their daily expenses have increased. Nepali people prefer an easy and comfortable life in Nepal which is often not possible. In today’s globalized world, young people’s minds are drawn to the material prosperity that they see in America and Europe. They aspire of having prosperity, and leading a better and successful life. The Nepali people are gradually inclined toward individualistic life because of such materialistic thoughts.

The smart youth with good English and sound financial condition can go abroad themselves migrate on their own way. But those who feel difficulty doing IELTS or others English language tests plan to marry a nurse or some other girls having prospects of going abroad. I have heard many examples of marrying a girl who can help a boy go and get settled in a foreign country.

It is a great loss for any country to see its smart youths move to other countries. Migration of educated young people to foreign lands will lead toward degradation of society. So, it is crucial for all to brainstorm on how to overcome such malady. The policy makers should seriously think how this trend could be stopped. The government should immediately come up with plans to retain the young brains in the country.

Greed for Abroad @My Republica (Nepalese Daily Newspaper)

Why only Two Options?

Does reading Science as Major Subject in higher education represent a student as genius, intelligent or of higher spirit? Can’t a student enhance the skills that are require while having brightening career after following other faculty? It is disheartening that many people are not aware about other faculties except Science and Management even students don’t know. When a student scores low grade in SEE, then he/she conceptuates of studying management assuming only two options either don’t know that there are other faculties too: Humanities and Education.

Last year, I heard two parents talking whose children had passed SEE with B+ grade. They were sharing to each other that my daughter might study management since there are only two options either Science or Management and she has clearly stated that I can’t pass Science with satisfactory marks. And another student’s parents replied that my son is insisting to study Science because his all best friends are sledding and I also have dream of seeing my son studying science. In this condition, does the science study with reluctant and less capability carry out the expected result? What sorts of manpower does it produce after studying science to show up? Such the tendency literally kills the skillful manpower as well as happiness and peace.

I am amazingly surprised analyzing the feeble education system of Nepal. Though there are indwelling many faculties, students are acquainted with only two faculties Science and Management, which does not elucidate the incursion of the common people and students such the concept of developing only two options in the mind represents the debased and depressed education system. Skills which are necessitated for the glistening future could be explored in science and management since other faculties like Humanities and Education possess limited scopes. So that, many parents enforce their children for studying Science and Management despite the will and potentiality of students.

I met one friend and introduced each others. He asked you study Science or Management? Then, I told, I study Humanities. He got confused and asked me what sort of faculty is this? Such the tendency really further hinders on the qualitative distribution of the education. The lectures and professors of University are significantly conscious about the lack of reliable and utile academic curriculum in Humanities and Education. Here comes my personal real experience which I coped during my Masters course that one professor came in our class at Tribhuvan University. There were four sections studying English Literature. He delivered his speech that why all of you have been here to study English Literature since it does not secure your career. Meanwhile, he told that I own supreme position at Department of English. He again continued that I have sent my son to abroad for studying technical subject because there exists no nay paths for the secured career studying Humanities and Education. He possesses higher position to implement some decision regarding curriculum as well as he presented himself as being aware about everything. Then my question is “Why doesn’t he amend the less utile curriculum? This demonstrates that the trouble is rooted upon the authoritarian bodies that can neither make reliable decision nor think academic curriculum, rather they provoke students demonstrating example of not having any secured career after studying which ultimately demotivates students who are studying Humanities or Education. Teachers are actually mean of motivation and inspiration as well as guardian to reflect the enlightenment. However, to instigate and demotivate to the students also evidences the lame education system.

Furthermore, the number of people who got to golf countries in the quest of employment is also from humanities and education background which also includes considering again about the curriculum of these faculties. My next astonishment is that encompassing student as talent, whereas clasping education faculty correspond a student erroneous and misconception. Mainly, whichever subject we choose, we must have heightened all sorts of skills. Skills are requisite for the future. Those who are aware about academic curriculum and faculties do not equate all the faculties.

Nepalese education system is degrading day by day. The less practical based education system of Nepal has attracted many students towards foreign education which is for better operable. The student’s non-acknowledgement as well as unwillingness to study Humanities and Education challenges the bodies dwelling at supreme education posit. It is actually the responsibilities of the government sectors to rethink about the curriculum. They must be focused on enhancing the quality must indeed be more acute. After the skillful and utile academic curriculum, the inclination towards foreign country would be decreased as labor. The respect and identity of being literate would be achieved by all.

“Why only two options?” @ My Republica (Nepalese Daily Newspaper)